How Close Should Intended Parents be with their Gestational Surrogates?

There is no one right answer to this question. The amount of closeness will depend entirely on the needs of both intended parents and their surrogates. If you’re starting to think about how to become an intended parent, it’s a good idea to think about what level of closeness you will want with a surrogate early in your surrogacy journey.

Do You Want an Arms’ Length Relationship?

There are many good reasons intended parents may feel they need to have a very careful and discrete relationship with their surrogate. Many may be coming from regions and cultures where they may have legitimate concerns about the reaction of their family and community. They may therefore want to keep the arrangement private and the relationship with the surrogate temporary.

Some surrogates may also prefer this type of relationship, especially as they must already have at least one child at home to qualify. Prospective surrogates with large families to care for may not have that much room in their lives.

Would You Prefer to Be Close to Your Surrogate?

Many other intended parents, however, want to embrace the intimacy of the situation and stay in touch with their surrogates. Sometimes, children may later be introduced to the surrogate as a sort of aunt until they are old enough to understand the arrangement. Some may keep a more casual connection and introduce a surrogate to a child at a later point. Many surrogates may also feel a great deal of fulfillment from seeing how the children they carried to term ultimately turned out. Ultimately, the decision about how closely intended parents will relate to their gestational surrogates will be entirely up to intended parents and their surrogates.

Making Choices

We’ve presented only two options and many people may want an arrangement that falls somewhere in between, Indeed, there are nearly as many possible arrangements as there are intended parents. A good surrogacy agency will provide you with all the information you need to make good decisions.

Helping Intended Parents Find the Right Gestational Surrogates

Here at Global Surrogacy Services, we carefully screen all of our applicants to make sure they meet all of the key surrogate mother requirements to ensure the best possible outcome.

Global Surrogacy Services is based in the Los Angeles area but works with intended parents nationwide and from around the world. You can start by reaching a member of our team by calling the number above. You can also get in touch by visiting our contact page.